2005-06-09-On Dealing With Grief

Session

Lesson

Thought Adjuster: "The movement into the next planes by one who is close to you is never easy. Indeed, it is often accompanied by racking feelings of grief, of anguish, of pain and of torment. Often, too, there is a feeling of guilt, which lies alongside these emotions. It is difficult within these moments to recognise peace, and that the world will continue, and you will once again find joy and hope without that person physically present in your life anymore.

"Remember though, throughout your grief that they are indeed at peace, having the chance to settle their feuds, find peace within their own actions, and learn the lessons which eluded them upon the earthly plane. By finding their own use and truth within the passage, they evolve in massive leaps, and if they so choose, may continue forever upward in joy, exultation and pride of that which they are.

"For those left behind, however, there is still lesson within the circumstance, and truly it is possible to make a huge leap in evolving awareness at this point, too. The recognition of the qualities that person brought to their life can be examined, and appreciated as they find that much of what that person has brought in pleasure are qualities found within their own soul and so important to them. This means that we can choose to find the positive attributes elsewhere in our life, and by acknowledging these and bringing light to them, can honour the legacy of the departed with growth and sustenance.

"The grief, anguish and pain, too, have their place, for without these emotions it would be difficult to fully let go of one state of our lives, a state within which that person was fully present, and into the next stage, when they are no longer near, but the teaching and worth within their life becomes apparent, and is built upon in lasting memory and joyous recollection.

"This is not so different from the legacy of Christ, who upon His demise in physical form left much to ponder, and which allowed His teachings to be spread within the fullness of time and space. There are of course attributes within each who passes that are less than perfect also. It is grace to allow that each person is human, and the unhelpful aspects of their life do indeed have use also, in mirroring, too, our own attitudes and direction.

"When you remember a being who has passed on that was close, and for whom you had great love, it is therefore of utmost importance to allow the grief to flow that allows the space for change, and to spend time in quiet, remembering that being, finding the qualities within them that brought you joy, and to in the future seek to emulate these within your own interactions, yet also to examine the qualities that brought you less joy, and to seek deep inside yourself as to the truth of whether it was your perception that judged, or a quality which the individual was working through to transform and transmute. In the former case you should then take as part of their legacy that learning to teach you to avoid such judgment and heal your own perceptions, and in the latter to avoid repeating their mistakes.

"Each human, by very nature of their humanity, brings a piece in the puzzle of all souls, in all places, each made within the image of the Divine, yet each an individual. This is true of those no longer in physical form as well as those who are yet in form of flesh. Each forms a place within the spider’s web, assisting in the creation of the Akashic records, and of the thought forms that define all of humanity as a species within the wider world. Each carries a blob of light within their core, a brilliance that may or may not be fully illuminated during the course of their life, but each human, regardless of their path and leanings during their lifetime, has touched many more beings, and it is through interaction with other humans that human beings learnt the most wisely and profoundly.

"The conjunction with nature, or with celestials, however deep and profound, is but dust on the surface compared to the truly deep lessons you learn from each other, and this is the greatest gift of your state as ascending mortals; to walk that journey in companionship with your own kind, to learn from each other, as you likewise teach each other, and to find within each interaction a meaning and a joy for experiencing this reality as comrades in arms.

"I say to you then to celebrate each relationship you encounter, to bring meaning to each moment of shared simplicity with other humans, and to revere the living and the dead alike as they have shared their lives with you, and told you some of their story by doing so. And let the tears flow when one passes, let that pain rack your body, feel the twist in your heart, for then you know that this is one you have truly loved. And when the grief has run its course, then you will hold their greatest essence still as testament within your learning, and a new you will emerge from the pain, richer and more whole for their teachings.

Closing

"I AM your Thought Adjuster, and I bring you comfort and stillness and depth of healing at this time within your own grief."

Note

I have had two people within my life pass on within the last few days, one of them only 25 years old. This transmission was in response to asking for help in dealing with my feelings at this point in time.