2006-07-17-Children's Upbringing

Session

Dialogue

Algimantas: My beloved Father, man has set up many institutions for educating children but they all seem to be dysfunctional since violence and crime amongst the youth as well as drug use grow. I think that the very basics in the up-bringing of the child is at fault. What are your comments on this issue?

Thought Adjuster: My beloved son, the education system is the reflection of man's thinking and feeling within. No man can create such institutions he is not ready for from within.

I have been telling you all the time that man's projection to the outside world is totally incorrect. And his direction of attention, exclusively to the outside, is distorting his relationship with even his own child that leads to this deplorable situation in the world, and this is being noticed by many.

Unfortunately, no human is capable of changing this situation at the moment for the better on humanity's level. That is why humanity shall experience the fruits of their own fruition very soon since violence and wars shall turn into a more common expression of such ill brought up children who have reached of a matured age to make their own decisions in the world developments.

To mend up this situation you must look into your own selves and establish communion with Me and thru My teaching received either directly from Me or thru those of My sons who are capable of contacting Me. And this teaching that you are currently receiving, shall be spread by you to as many My sons and daughters as you can reach, shall make its contribution to enlighten young parents, and even elderly people who have opened their hearts to a more deep knowledge.

My beloved son, it is not correct to state the question the way you put it to Me. The question must be the following: What must be done to reestablish the relationship with Me by each parent so that this newly established living link with Me should wake up the dormant LOVE that I have placed within each of you so that you would begin to feel its real presence and this love vibration would teach you, or rather would direct you in your permanent and consistent efforts to keep similar link of your personal love vibrations with your partner even before you get married. This love vibration is from Me. Thus, your family link shall, then, be grounded on My spiritual love even your physical contact shall be present in it but it shall be always tinged with My personal spiritual presence.

Thus it is My love pouring into an opened soul that shall build up your future material family and its future life, including the conception of a new life for the benefit of the creation and not for the satisfaction of your physical desires to have a child without even knowing what is the reason to have it and for what purpose. And quite often even for a single mother.

That is why having established communion with Me from the depth of your souls you will lay the foundation for your future children - My new sons and daughters that shall improve the destiny, or rather living, on Urantia as well as on other worlds.

Algimantas: My beloved Father, thank you for this answer. But what must be done to remedy the current situation and what must be said to the young parents who are doing their best to bring up their children as your sons and daughters, now?

Thought Adjuster: My beloved son, My answer is valid beyond time and generation limits for no matter when and where man might raise this issue My response is the only one I have just given above and I shall not give you a different one - set up strong communion with Me from within and having discovered My love within you shall know how to proceed with the up-bringing of the child.

All the other means, be they educational courses on the family relationships, psychological sessions, educational groups on the child raising, they all deal on a THEORETICAL level that does not EMBRACE MY PRESENCE IN THE VERY PROCESS AND THUS THEY ARE ALL FUTILE AND FAKE SINCE THEY EXCLUDE THE SOURCE OF LOVE FROM THIS VITAL PROCESS IN DISCLOSING AND DEVELOPING THE PERSONALITY CHARACTER FROM ITS FIRST DAYS.

Algimantas: But my beloved Father, having that in mind, would you give me some definite advice as to the relationship with one's child, say, how to approach the child's nutrition problems, what food must be given to the child, how often a day, how much, what activity must be encouraged and at what age. I think that the absolute majority of the parents of this generation do desire to know more about these practical things to apply them in practice.

Thought Adjuster: My beloved son, your intention is understandable and this might help but too few of My children, just those who have already opened up their hearts-souls to Me. Meanwhile the others shall be scared at what they shall read and ignore my response as being untrue. I there is no force that shall make them believe My teaching apart from their opened heart and their own experiences with their children. But to introduce what I teach here they nee to undergo a qualitative transformation within that would open up their closed eyes and ears to what I am saying.

But to your question I would recommend all of you reading The Urantia Book passages relating the relationship of Jesus with his little brothers and sisters. Just ponder for a while how much love and understanding Jesus was showing at his young age. And then ask the question how could he have done it without feeling and experiencing My love within him when his life experience was so short. And you shall realize that My love, once discovered within, transcends life experiences even though it is meant for living these very same life experiences.

Any newly born man is ALREADY A FREE-WILL PERSONALITY. That is why do not incarcerate it into a prison-cage by your permanent NOS when you base your baby's up-bringing on "do not do that, do not eat this, and do not think this way." By focusing your attention on negative, or forbidding, side in your personal relationship you suppress this new personality's WILL BESTOWED BY ME, AND THUS ALREADY VIOLATE MY WILL for I have given you a mandate to raise a new life that you have created as A FREE-WILL PERSON TO SERVE ME AND THE CREATION, OUR CREATION, IN LOVE, IN MY LOVE.

How could you, then, bring up such a personality - My son and daughter - full of My love to pass it to others if this little child is already spiritually crippled from the very first steps on this world by all these NO'S.

But you shall not be able to abolish all this negative approach by your will. You need to discover Me within yourselves, within each of you. It is only then you shall realize that up-bringing a child is growing together with the child. And you shall never force the child to do anything but rather you shall arouse his appetite for doing that very valuable thing you want him to do by showing him how to do and then doing it together. And that shall be, starting with the child's feeding, even with the feeding of the child from the mother's breast. This must be done while both parents are present since the child is being fed not only by the material mother's milk but also with My love vibrations coming thru both parents. And if both parents are present these love vibrations are channeled to the baby in a balanced way.

Remember Adam and Eve on Urantia when they have been permanently warned by the angels that they would not separate and be together. Being together is a very strong and strengthening factor. If it is not possible to be together physically then this must be done spiritually and it must always be a conscious and intentional act of love of togetherness. And this feeling of togetherness develops absolutely new sensations in the child and they shall manifest thru his higher and surprising actions in early age nothing speaking about his mature age.

Can you not learn from My animal life how cubs are being well treated and protected by their mothers. You are much higher than a pure animal category thus you must take from them what is positive and ignore what is negative until you discover Me within and then you shall be floating in My love and this My love shall dictate your relationship with your children. When a baby wants to eat it turns to being restless, and even cries. It knows what it needs at the moment. Why, then, you think that a bigger child becomes less clever than the baby who knows how to ask for food when he is hungry. But you, all, press on the child that he would necessarily eat when YOU want him to eat. Why do you decide for him that he MUST WANT TO EAT RIGHT NOW?

Again, you violate My FREE will. And the absence of My love discovered within you does make you feel unsafe and willing this insecurity within to pass over to your relationships with your children by different commands that match your understanding but absolutely inappropriate to the child's free-will growing. That is why TRUST ME, and all the senses, I placed in the human mind even in dealing with your children, and NEVER IMPOSE ON THEM ANY FOOD. When they do want to eat they shall ask you for it. You may ask him if he wants to eat, but trust him if he says no. That is very important to his future healthy life.

If you want to form positive traits of his character do everything together with him. Do not focus on what he must not do but rather on what and show how to do what your heart is leading you to teach him. Lie in the grass on a lawn and show him what an active life is under the grass that is usually unseen by human eyes from a standing-on-foot position.

Then allow yourself to discover these things as well, and confess to the child if you are also doing it for the first time. That builds up a positive relationship. If a bee approaches a child never scare away either the bee or the child but rather allow the child to set up a link with the bee as another creature from My creation and point out that I do love both the bee and him as I do every other creature.

In bringing up his children man must also strain his heart-soul muscles and stop moving in a neutral gear out of inertia in the hope that somebody else would do the job for him while he or she is watching TV or spending time with the friends and discussing the problems of their hard living and being unable to understand people.

Closing

Algimantas: Thank you, my beloved Father.

Thought Adjuster: Peace be upon you.

Note

July 17, 2006, Vilnius, 7.10 a.m.